Peter Laufer always took the issue of soldiers refusing bad orders to heart. Now a close friend of his son’s, the son of his own close friend, a Marine he’s known since the soldier was a 2-week old squirt, is being ordered deployed to Iraq. Fubar, as they say. What advice can you give someone in a position like this? How much can you expect from someone? With difficulty, Peter’s written his friend an open letter .